i asked the followin' question on my facebook page: there are many "faces" of abuse - can ya name 'em all?
don't get me wrong, i know there's a stigma on the subject. much shame is carried as well as guilt. there should NOT be. saddened me greatly that i only got one reponse, but it was a purty darned good one and so here it is.
Verbal abuse includes name-calling, telling you that you are worthless, that you are a bad parent, shouting, constantly interrupting, telling other people that you are crazy, blaming you for the abuse.
Emotional abuse includes threats, isolation, manipulation, insults, destruction of property, public humiliation, accusations of affairs, threats of suicide, self injury, or homicide if you leave.
Financial abuse includes controlling all income, not letting you work or keep a job, making you ask for money, giving an allowance, taking your money, or running up debt under your name.
Sexual abuse can include forced or coerced sex with your partner, another person, or an object.
Physical abuse includes any forceful behavior such as hitting, choking, slapping, using weapons, driving recklessly, holding you down, and preventing you from leaving.
as i read this, tears started to form and softly flow down my cheek. i am not one to cry and have always taken great pride in the fact that i can normally control my emotions well. to me it was one thing that couldn't be taken away.
i found myself involved in every single one of these categories at different times of my life. the realization was like a pitcher of cold iced tea bein' thrown in my face! how did i not acknowledge this? perhaps coz it didn't happen all at once? perhaps the calculations of the other party who was/is such a great manipulator that they succeeded in makin' me believe that it WASN'T real? i've not a clue....
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